To prevent us from overreacting or underreacting, we need to acknowledge factors that may influence our ability to identify concerning behaviors. These factors can be grouped into three categories: general fears, fears associated with the setting in which the behaviors are occurring, and fears associated with the people involved.
There are several general fears that can influence whether we identify something as a concern, some of which we have already discussed but are worth repeating.
People may not identify something as a concern because they fear:
People may also not identify something as a concern based on the setting where the behavior occurs. Some people may feel statements posted online are less concerning than those expressed verbally, while others may feel the opposite. Similarly, behavior that happens in private may be interpreted differently from behavior that happens in public settings.
Identifying something as a concern may also be influenced by the people involved. Some people may be more likely to identify a behavior as a concern when it involves a stranger versus their family member or friend. Others may be more likely to identify behavioral concerns in those closest to them.